Good Morning Beloved,
Trust is an essential component of any strong relationship, but it doesn’t happen quickly. And once it’s broken, it’s hard to rebuild. Trust is a choice that you have to make. You can’t make someone trust you. You might not choose to trust someone until they show that they’re worthy of it. Betrayal of trust resulted from a miscommunication or misunderstanding. Whatever happened, it’s important to make it clear that what they did wasn’t OK. But knowing the reasons behind their actions may help you decide whether you’re able to begin rebuilding the trust you once shared.
How to begin to trust again after a broken heart.
- Communicate; It might be painful or uncomfortable, but one of the biggest aspects of rebuilding trust after betrayal is talking to your partner about the situation. Set aside some time to clearly tell them:
- How you feel about the situation?
- Why the betrayal of trust hurt you?
- What you need from them to start rebuilding trust?
Give the other person a chance to talk, but pay attention to their sincerity. Do they apologize and seem truly regretful? Or are they defensive and unwilling to own up to their betrayal?
- Practice forgiveness; Depending on the betrayal, it might be hard to forgive your partner and move forward. But try to remember that forgiving your partner isn’t saying that what they did was OK. Rather, you’re empowering yourself to come to terms with what happened and leave it in the past. You’re also giving your partner a chance to learn and grow from their mistakes.
- Avoid dwelling on the past; This isn’t always easy, especially at first. You might have a hard time letting go of the betrayal and find it difficult to start trusting your partner, especially if you’re worried about another betrayal. But when you decide to give the relationship a second chance, you’re also deciding to trust your partner again. Maybe you can’t completely trust them right away, but you’re implying you’ll give trust a chance to regrow. It will be easy to work on the relationship If you stop thinking about what happened or have misgivings about your partner’s future honesty or faithfulness, couples counseling can help. But these signs could also indicate you may not be ready to work on the relationship.
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Bishop Autie R Hines II, Pastor
www.newbreedfellowship.church